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Retiring Derbyshire couple reflect on 42 years of fostering

Published: 4 December 2025

A couple who have dedicated 42 years of their life to looking after children are retiring as foster carers.


Lilian and Stan

Lilian and Stan Barnes have been reflecting on their decades-long commitment to providing stable, loving homes for Derbyshire children.

Over the years, the couple have cared for around 45 children, taking them into their home for between 1 and 3 years before they either went back to their families or were adopted.

They remember each child with huge fondness and their home is full of photographs of all the children they have cared for over the years. Many of the children they cared for still keep in touch with them today.

Lilian said: 

“Every child has been special, whether it be a particular smile or a certain characteristic. They each have their own way.”

And as the couple, who are described as loving, committed and inspirational by those that know them, look back over their journey they both declared:

“We would do it all again.”

Lilian and Stan, who started fostering in 1983, had 3 children of their own and adopted their son, who they had fostered as a baby, in 1990.

They are particularly experienced in caring for babies and younger children.

Their social worker, who has known them for 13 years, said:

“They have dedicated their lives to fostering and they go over and above and the children they care for always come first.

“What really stands out is their modest, kind nature and compassion for others. I am sure fostering has changed a lot over the past 42 years but Lilian and Stan have adapted to the changes and are amongst our most valued and committed foster carers.

“Any child who lived with them received an abundance of love, attention and warmth.”

Councillor Sam Redfern, Cabinet Member for Children and Families, said: 

“Lilian and Stan are very special, inspirational people and have made a significant difference to a lot of children’s lives.

“They have opened up their home and their hearts to offer stability, safety and love for children in need.

“I hope their story might inspire others to come forward and provide a loving home to Derbyshire children when they need it the most.”

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